Imagine that you're involved with someone. Say, then, that the people closest to them dislike you, and they do nothing about it. They don't defend you, they don't stick up for you, they don't even tell their loved ones, "I'm involved with so-and-so, so you need to deal with that and you need to act decently toward them." Instead, they avoid the issue. They try to keep their involvement with you low profile. They don't really talk about how involved with you they are or don't mention the involvement altogether. They blow you off sometimes when it might mean letting the disapproving friends and family know about the extent of their involvement with you, when it might mean facing up to their disapproval.

Is that cause for offense?

Is it cause to think that perhaps something is wrong, that perhaps something was always wrong? Is it a possible indication of a lack of care and concern for you and your feelings?

Is it nothing to worry about? Maybe things are just like that, sometimes, and it doesn't mean anything at all.

Should one expect that people they are involved with will defend them to friends and family, advocate for those friends and family to like or at least act civilly toward you? Or would an expectation like that be out of line?