Saturday, November 21, 2009
Where I've Been
I got out of the habit of blogging, I think, when I got really involved with Jaimes.
Partly he didn't like me spending time on computers, especially after I got pregnant.
Partly, one never knew what could come back to be an issue of contention later. Any time I committed myself to a belief or to some version of events or to some interpretation of the world around me, it was subject to later criticism.
Partly, whenever I did blog, so much of what I had to say was negative. I got tired of all my own whining. I don't want this journal to be merely an outlet for venting and self-pity; I want it to be an exploration of whatever comes to mind, good or bad, meaningful or trite. When that starts skewing to entirely complaints, it's not a good balance.
Partly, I think, after a time, there started to be a dynamic in my life where almost all my friends disapproved of my relationship with Jaimes, and were worried about me, and I was still in denial about it. It was almost like I was living a lie, that I was creating, that everything was fine. That the relationship was good. And I couldn't sit down and really reflect, and still be able to maintain that.
So I stopped reflecting, in some sense.
That was maybe the biggest factor.
Now I'm strongly out of the habit. And habits are hard to break or create.