Mmm. More with the quoting.

. . . I think another aspect that goes wrong when 'looking' for someone is that you are too often concentrating on somebody *else's* virtues and qualities, not your own. I really believe that you can't make someone else love you, you can only make yourself loveable. So concentrate on making yourself a wonderful, happy, secure, confident, person and when you DO meet the person of your dreams, you'll be their dream, too. . . . [Original Article]

Bear with me here; I'll finish reading through all these threads soon, and then we'll be back to my original drivel.